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An Unplanned Pregnancy

An Unplanned Pregnancy

Pregnancy is hard, but an unplanned pregnancy is even harder. In the midst of this difficult reality, use the Bible as your guide.

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Choosing the Best for You & Your Baby

It is a jarring shift for a woman to go from processing a relationship that has become sexual to trying to figure out what to do about a newly conceived life. Even if you have always believed that life is precious and that babies deserve the chance to live, experiencing an unplanned pregnancy yourself can be overwhelming. You find it is more complex than just a “yes” or “no” decision. All the things that are at stake—added to the hormones that are likely affecting your emotions—can leave you feeling confused and afraid. What should you consider as you try to decide the best options for both you and this new life?


Every human life has value regardless of the circumstances. That goes for you and your baby. You were both created in the image of God and were fearfully and wonderfully made. All of your days were written in God’s book before one of them came to be (Psalm 139:13-16). Even though you do not know your future or the future of this baby’s life, your decisions affect both. Pray that God will help you make choices that preserve His best for both of you—to allow you both to experience the full life He offers. As Jesus said, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full” (John 10:10).

CONSIDERATION TWO: The Responsibilities Ahead

If you have chosen to give birth to your baby, you have already taken a heroic step. That is just the beginning. Now you must decide who will raise this child. There is great responsibility involved in caring for a child in both the short-term and longterm. Being a parent means learning to lay down your life as a servant for your child (Philippians 2:3-7). Many mothers choose to take on this responsibility alone. Single mothers usually find, however, the responsibilities are greater than they ever imagined, and despite the sacrifices they make, their children are left with great disadvantages.

If you hope to raise this child yourself, you should pray about where the child’s father fits in. A father can make all the difference in a child’s life—for better or worse. Often, an unplanned pregnancy can uncover a man’s true character and make it clear whether or not he has the courage and discipline to be a good husband or father. There are times, however, when a man who has been irresponsible about sex outside of marriage can still become the man you and your child need. With a lot of work and Biblical counsel, it is possible to make even an unplanned family work.

CONSIDERATION THREE: The Hope of Redemption

God is in the business of turning situations that feel like a mess into “happily ever after” stories. Having your child’s father commit to the long-term responsibilities of marriage and parenting, can provide a hopeful story of redemption. When that is not the case, however, the best hope for your child may be adoption by parents who are prepared for the responsibilities ahead. There can be great heartache in holding your new baby and then handing it over to someone else. It is often the best choice you can make for your child’s future. It also can be an answer to prayer for the couple who hopes to adopt children.

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By Ruth Graham and Sara Dormon

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